We’ve all heard it before, MGTOW are anti family. MGTOW are being selfish for not having kids.
Well, let’s first address that MGTOW is anti-family. I don’t believe that family, in the abstract, goes against the goals of MGTOW. The fallacy here is in assuming that “family” means “marriage”.
But there is nothing antithetical to MGTOW about having a brother, or a sister, or a mother, fathers, nieces, nephews, cousins. And in a world where child custody defaults to the man, there would be nothing antithetical about having children. And single parent fathers right now can be perfectly MGTOW. Do not conflate the words “marriage” and “family.”
Next comes the bit about being selfish. We are told we are selfish for not wanting to bring life into this world, not wanting to devote our time and money, not wanting to take a chance. We are selfish because all of our parents before us made a great sacrifice of their time and money to bring us into this world, and we’re just being selfish. We have a duty to keep the human species around.
Well let me explain to you the selfishness of parenthood.
Bringing life into this world without consent is selfish. I didn’t ask to be born, none of us did, it was thrust upon us because our parents “wanted” to have a baby. They didn’t bring us into this world under threat of law, or make a sacrifice for god and country; they did it because they wanted a child.
Or, because they were hormonal, drunk, and careless, and then the mother either didn’t have access to abortion, or didn’t want an abortion.
We were brought into this world by either the selfish wants of our parents or the irresponsibility of our parents.
Parents with very pronounced genetic diseases bring kids into this world, knowing that their children will most likely inherit the disease.
Fat guys who come from a long line of fat guys, will hook up with a fat bitch who comes from a long line of fat bitches, and therefore know in advance they’re going to have a fat kid. And each one of them was teased in their youth over their obesity, they had low self esteem, and even exist as low on the mating totem because of their obesity, but fuck it they want a child, they want it like they want a toy, and the child will go through the same torment as them.
Parents of two different races will have a racially mixed baby, and to hell with whether or not that makes the child’s life more difficult. In this day and age, in America at least, it’s not that big of a deal anymore. There are so many different races and mixtures of races, it’s just not important.
But 40 or more years ago, being born half white and half black meant you were always going to have a hard time completely fitting in with blacks, and whites were just going to consider you black, it didn’t matter if you were 50% or 100% you weren’t white in the eyes of most white America, and this attitude didn’t even come from the racially intolerant, it was just the psychology of the culture.
But typically white America would have statements “well you can’t blame the kid.” You can’t take it out on the kid” to try to convince their more intolerant friends and family to not look down on the poor racially mixed kid. And while those who made such statements were good intentioned, these statements still had a connotation that something “wrong” had taken place with the child’s birth.
But did the parents care that their children would spend their life having a hard time fitting in? No.
They wanted a child, they had a child. It was brought into this world by selfishness.
Parents who are dirt poor, have no way of affording good medical care for their children, won’t be able to afford braces to fix up their crooked teeth, have no way of paying for their children’s college. These parents bring these poor children into this world as second class citizens, victims of poverty, the slave wage class.
Some children are brought into this world with opportunities, wealthy parents who can pay their college for them, open doors in the business world for them. All the while other children are raised in ghettos with no real chance to make it. These impoverished children grow up knowing that $30,000 student loan debt is the only chance they have to one day make it as just middle class, and have their house and college debt paid off by the age of retirement. And there’s no guarantee that they’ll pass college, so it might just be adding a $30,000 debt to their life. It feels like going from ghetto poverty to white picket fence suburbia is like hitting the lottery. So why not just play the lottery, same chances, a fraction of the effort… and that’s why the lottery is so popular among the poorest people. Hey it’s either lottery or drug dealing.
Did their parents ever stop to think about what an underprivileged life they were going to give to their children? Maybe, maybe not, all that matters is “I want a baby”.
And what about the middle class families that divorce at the drop of a hat, knowing that no matter who gets what, both of them are taking a hit in their standard of living, and the kids will suffer for it. But half the couples out there get divorced, and I doubt consideration for the children is what kept the other half together.
And the kids, when they grow up, are kicked out of the house. There hits a certain time when they are told they need to launch and get out. Their parents drive them out, due to selfishness. The parents get tired of paying for the little brat, they want that child gone. But if they kick their off spring out, then who is going to take care of them when they are old? The state, via their children’s taxes. That’s right, a good percentage of that tax money taken out of young working people’s pay check goes to housing and feeding and medicating the old.
Parenthood is an act of selfishness, it always has been. Humans are selfish. And the cold ugly reality is, selfishness is a necessary component of life. People have to be selfish and have kids to make the human species remain. Selfishness is a two edged sword; it keeps us alive, keeps our species going, and yet is the root of all that makes our lives miserable.
Both MGTOW and parenthood is rooted in selfishness.