There has been a lot of discussion recently within MGTOW circles about activism, I first started hearing about activism when I was on a hangout with Shining Light, Niko Choski, Warhorse and Traversable. The link is in the references section at the end of this article and I would encourage you to watch the video after you read this article.
Initially when I heard the words ‘activism’ uttered by a respected MGTOW I was skeptical, as it brought back mental images of Men’s Rights Activists (MRA) at the Men’s Rights Conference being chased down the street and sworn at by the now infamous Canadian feminist, Chanty ‘Big Red’ Binx in 2013. The endless flame wars between MRA and the general public on the comment sections of the Huffington post and other websites at some new piece of legislative insanity or a news story of a professional divorcer who had taken some poor ex husband for most of his hard earned wealth. Or the “Don’t Be That Girl” Poster which brought a huge backlash against leader of a prominent MRA organisation, and perhaps unforgivably, achieving nothing in the process in terms of legal or policy change. It brought mental imagery of advocacy over decades, millions of collective working hours wasted without changing a single law, and gentlemen it didn’t feel enjoyable to mentally tread this path.
The Men’s Rights Movement (MRM) ultimately failed for a number of reasons that the currently much derided field of study known as Evolutionary Psychology would have pointed out in a heartbeat if the founders of the movement had only thought to consult it. John The Other delivered an excellent analysis of the futility of the MRM in his video ‘The MRM’s Faulty Assumptions’, John pointed out that MRM’s falsely assumed that there was a compassion to be tapped into when dealing with women, that if only the MRM worded male grievances in a certain way or highlighted the data concerning male suicide rates, female initiated divorce rates, male homelessness, female initiated false domestic violence allegations, and the list goes on, that if only the MRM gave women the facts that women and ultimately society would care, with this change of hearts & minds then legal change would follow.
After perhaps four decades of work by the MRM, along came MGTOW who quickly realized that there is no such compassion on a societal level for the systematic abuse suffered by men. Individual women, your mother, girlfriend, sister or daughter may care, but women as a whole do not. Women are simply not built to be empathetic or caring for men, while I’m not an expert on the subject, I did recently have a fascinating discussion (The Evolutionary Psychology of Human Sex and Gender. Which now is available on my YouTube channel) with Professor Michael Mills (Associate Professor of Psychology, and former Chair, at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles) where he described the sexually dimorphic psychological adaptations that make women very different to men.
The MRM essentially assumed that women think and respond to stimuli like men, in that women also feel a sense of shame if they benefit from the abuse of others, that women have honor and a sense of justice, MGTOW know better than that. Honor, justice and the ability to empathize with others are largely strategies for reproductive success, found predominantly in the males of the human species!
The MRM were trying to persuade one half of the human population to give up entrenched privileges and perceived rights. It’s important to understand that most women think of child tax care credits, alimony, unfair child custody laws, primary aggressor laws, yes means yes laws, as rights! In the same way you view your right to vote and practice a religion of your choice, women see these as rights regardless of who had to be violated, assaulted, imprisoned or committed suicide to provision them.
After getting over the initial sock of MRM and Big Red mental imagery I reflected deeply on what Shining Light, Niko Choski, Warhorse and Traversable were asking in the hangout, I thought back on how I discovered MGTOW, and how large a debt I owe to Stardusk and Barbarossa, whom without their own form of activism in the form of YouTube content I would have almost certainly remarried after my divorce, kept up the provider husband role, fathered another child with a new women and most likely been miserable for the rest of my consequently shortened life.
Many men have adopted the MGTOW label and forgotten that going ones own way means leaving Gynocentrism behind, not other men. Without the work of MGTOW who came before us who surveyed the landscape, analyzed human nature and developed our most important theories, the majority of us would have not found MGTOW. Lets face it most men will never develop these theories for themselves, despite repeated divorces or being on the receiving end of the most blatant Gynocentrism’s. Yes, there is a marriage strike going on, but a marriage strike by it’s self is not MGTOW, others did the hard work, made videos, reached out, and sent them to us, this gift of knowledge was given to us freely and continues to benefit men greatly.
Then I began to imagine what activism might look like within MGTOW and I thought of all the excellent work, online and offline done by MGTOW, including but of course not limited to;
The Mayor of MGTOWN and his work helping to clothe, feed and support our brothers who find themselves homeless
The legion of content creators, moderators and contributors on MGTOW YouTube channels, forums and websites that we visit and benefit from including but not limited to Neo Unplugged, Ayam Serious, Bar Bar, Stardusk, RBK, mgtow.com, sheddingoftheego.com, goingyourownway.com and razorbladekandy.wordpress.com
MGTOW who run Hangouts like Traversable Mgtow, Ayam Serious and Shining Light.
John The Other and Diana Davison’s work with Community Organized Compassion and Kindness
The YouTuber Alex Brown who goes to Speakers corner to spread the word about MGTOW in the United Kingdom
The men and boys who try to persuade friends, even acquaintances not to get married, who spread the word about MGTOW online and offline
These men ALL engage in activism and we owe them a large debt for their efforts. Each and every man is contributing in his own way, according to his own resources. So the next logical questions are
(1) How can we avoid the plight of the MRM?
(2) To what extent is MGTOW activism like or different to that of the MRM?
I believe both questions can be answered singularly, or to put it another way, if our activism is like that of the MRM, if it suffers from the same fundamental philosophical flaws we will have the same results. It’s upon inspection of the underlying basis, structure and goals of MGTOW activism that I believe we will find the answers.
Firstly MGTOW, unlike the MRM is decentralized, MGTOW has no leader and never will, meaning we will never suffer from the same co-opting by traditionalists that irreparably harmed the image of the MRM.
Secondly, MGTOW is not fighting against female nature. Each MGTOW is conducting a risk benefit analysis, on his own terms, deciding how little Gynocentrism he prefers and behaving accordingly, this then naturally results in a rejection of marriage at a minimum and for others perhaps a rejection of all but the most essential interaction with females.
Thirdly, MGTOW are not demanding legal change, many of us, including myself hope that legal change will come but MGTOW are not investing our efforts in such a monumental task, we have learnt from the efforts of the MRM over four decades that legal change is all but impossible, the legal anti-male bias is too entrenched and repealing anti-male laws is all but impossible when females and their sympathizers (99% of men) outvote MGTOW.
Finally, many hands make light work, with the forms of activism seen in MGTOW, each man is able to contribute according to the amount of time, money and motivation he has at his disposable, the MRM being a centralized team, did not benefit from this style of guerrilla warfare. Think the British with their large regimented army VS the Americans seeking independence who were decentralized, lived off the land, were mobile in small raiding and skirmishing parties.
Actually upon closer inspection, Shining Light, Niko Choski, Warhorse and Traversable are right in my opinion, simply going ones own way is not enough, our brothers, other men still lay, bleeding and dying on the battle field we call life, not all can be saved but we should at least try to help those we can through activism, and leave those who refuse our aid or are too far involved to leave without undue suffering. After all some tumors affect major organs and have grown in such a way that removing them will most certainly kill the patient, in such a situation all a compassionate doctor can offer is something to help ease the pain, when I was new to MGTOW my biggest regret was that I didn’t have this information when I was younger, it would have certainly changed the course of my life for the better. Lets give this gift to our fellow men; knowledge will set them free.
Forming male focused charities, serving on juries in criminal cases to help acquit men (a wonderful suggestion by the Mayor of Mgtown), helping homeless men, educating boys, aiding men who express suicidal thoughts, forming communities that benefit men, helping men to learn new skills, sharing videos, forwarding information with blue pill friends are all essential forms of activism within MGTOW, as I said earlier, I interpret MGTOW as abandoning Gynocentrism, not my fellow men.
The “Don’t Be That Girl” Poster Controversy in Edmonton, and A Voice for Men’s History of Rape Apologia
The MRM’s Faulty Assumptions
MGTOW activism or not to activism
The Evolutionary Psychology of Human Sex and Gender