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I was recently in a live hangout with some fellow MGTOW, we were talking about the Patriarchy and gender issues that men face in our times, and one MGTOW raised the question: “Why MGTOW, how did that happen, what caused this social phenomenon?”. Another MGTOW gave what seems to be an excellent answer:
“Because men in the past had authority, and they lost it”.
I was listening to what he had to say on that particular subject, but to be fair, I wasn’t particularly impressed with that statement. The response he gave seems indeed to be a logical explanation, a reasonable answer since, if you look at the current anti-male legislation, or absurd and extremely misandric, ridiculous and completely fictitious phenomena like rape culture or “manspreading” (yes it got that moronic), imposed onto us men and our society by media, politicians, governments, journalists, gender ideologues, pop psychologists and tv talk show sociologists, then yes, I would certainly agree.
If… there wasn’t anything else to add. And there is.
There is this common misconception that men of the past had authority, and that past societies used to respect men far more that they do today. But is that the case? I’d start by saying that the great majority of men of the past had absolutely nothing to do with Power, Control, Leadership and Authority and, if you think of what many feminist women (and men) usually say on the subject, the language they use, the usual banal shaming tactics like the tiresome “white cis male privilege” non-argument, I’d be more than happy to inform you that the great, great and I repeat great majority of white cis men had absolutely nothing to do with authority.
Power was usually given to an extremely small and carefully selected elite of men who, yes, especially in western cultures, were indeed white, cisgendered, and obviously male. But they were also older men since most powerful men of the past were elders, and they used to belong to rich, powerful and influential “clans”. Powerful families who used to be in control of the economy, politics, financial institutions, medias and… well, the whole kaboom. But most “white cisgendered old men” had absolutely nothing to do with power. The great majority of this carefully selected social subgroup had zero percent authority, and if that was the case for the “white cis old men”, just imagine, apply the exact same logic to non white men, non cis men, non old men who had absolutely nothing to do with leadership and control… what exactly was the real percentage of powerful men in the past?
How about 5 percent? Try again…
How about 1 percent? Try harder…
Men who had real decisional power in the past were most probably one or two in a million. If you think of all leaders and politicians, powerful men who controlled the finance or the economy (and I’m not talking of the little business man who has no real decisional power, since at the first financial collapse they’re the first ones to take their lives as we have learnt from the 1929 and 2008 economic / financial collapse), and I’m talking of millionaires, great businessmen and powerful politicians, then we’re talking here of an extremely small elite. 1 in a million (1iM) equates to the ridiculously small percentage of 0.000001%. That microscopic percentage is the equivalent of the number of men who had real authority on the whole male population.
A ONE man in a million does NOT make the other 999,999 powerful or “privileged”. Rather the reverse, that “one in a million” man had the authority and the privilege to turn the remaining 999,999 into his possessions. Other men had no real authority.
The 1iM man is the leader who exploits all the rest. Who uses all other men as tools to achieve what he wants without running any risk. Who decides to start a war but sends your 18 year old son to fight that war. Who wants to live in a successful society where he will build absolutely nothing, someone else will. And when I say “someone else” I certainly don’t mean women. I mean men. Other men. The 999,999 out of a million who don’t have the “male privilege” to ruin or exploit other men.
We have a “man iceberg” in front of us. The tip of that iceberg represents the 1iM men, and the much larger part of that iceberg is made of the great majority of men who can’t sit on top of that iceberg, they remain underwater and… can’t breathe. They are not allowed to emerge and have to stay deep down in the abyss. So what’s keeping them deep down underwater? After all they represent the majority, and the majority could crush the elite in just a few days. What keeps the great majority of men under, while 1iM men stay at the top and hold on to their power?
Male Authority Delusion.
The illusion of male authority. You keep them dumb and ready to serve by using precisely what men have evolved to love, enjoy, appreciate, and hold dear to themselves. Things like honor, bravery, brotherhood and legacy. You tell them that they have the duty to serve the 1iM, you make them believe that it is an honorable thing to stay underwater while serving the tip of the iceberg. You install into their minds tribalistic concepts of “fatherland” / “vaterland” / “La Patria” (pater = father – latin). And the Patria is the land of the fathers. Men’s fathers who are looking at their sons from beyond the grave with authoritative eyes and say: “son, you have to serve the tip of the iceberg”. The 1iM men tell the underwater men that their fathers would be very disappointed if they didn’t serve the tip of the iceberg, but if their sons are ready to serve the 1iM men, they’d be “so proud”. You see, this is pure psychological manipulation. They are using young men’s need to be approved by their fathers. And here we step into a second concept:
Father Need. (We need our dead father’s approval… from beyond the grave).
Other MGTOW have talked in the past of “Mother Need”, and I would add: how gynocentric. Who cares about men, right? But sheddingoftheego is about male psychology, men’s issues and Men in general. So what is Father Need?
From the Internet: Father Complex
Father complex in psychology is a complex — a group of unconscious associations, or a strong unconscious impulses — which specifically pertains to the image or archetype of the father. These impulses may be either positive (admiring and seeking out older father figures) or negative (distrusting or fearful).
Men grow up with the clear idea that to be good enough they must comply with the wishes and demands of their older father figures. And when I say “their fathers”, I obviously include the “image, or archetype of the father”. The fathers of their land. The great men of the past who aren’t alive to be physically there with you, but would still admire you, as previously stated, from beyond the grave, if you meet their long dead expectations, who would hate you if you failed to meet their demands. You admire them because they gave you the land you’re living in, but you fear them because you fear their judgment, their negative opinion on you, their disapproval or even punishment. You admire the dead, and fear zombies who in reality could never punish you, or even disapprove. They’re ash. But you where taught that “ash” is looking at you from the cemetery, and you should never disappoint that ash.
The combination of “Past Male Authority Delusion” and “Father Complex” (or Need to be approved by your dead fathers) is what allows our society to exist the way it has always existed.
Men of the past didn’t have any real authority. They had the illusion of it. And that illusion wasn’t taken away from them because you can’t take away an illusion. The only thing to can do is to wake up and open your eyes, and realise that it was all a lie.
MGTOW should explore this Father Complex, and understand that the need for dead fathers’ approval is one of the most powerful engines of our civilization. A gynocentric and misandric system put there by underwater men, for 1iM men, that allows the few privileged men who are sitting on the tip of the iceberg to enjoy their harem. And that’s where you find women. Women are sitting on the tip of the iceberg, kissing “thank you” to the 1iM men, while you are desperately trying to emerge from the freezing waters, and worship the women who do NOT need you there. And you know why? Try to flip an iceberg the other way around and see what happens. Just leave it to gravity and physics. The massive, greatest part of the iceberg, now above the surface, would automatically and brutally flip the iceberg back to the previous state, allowing the small tip of it emerge from the abyss (killing all). And the women and the 1iM men would never allow that. They need you to stay where you are. You need to generate the massive weight that keeps the iceberg in position, exactly the way it has always been.
It’s not a surprise that Sigmund Freud, the “father” of psychoanalysis, and the man who theorised the Father Complex, used the Iceberg Example to explain the human brain. The iceberg doesn’t only represent the gynocentric and misandric patriarchal societal structure, it also represents our mind. The tip of the iceberg is the conscious mind. The rest of the iceberg is the greatest part of it, and it’s completely underwater. That part of the iceberg represents the unconscious. And the unconscious represents a storehouse of socially unacceptable desires (walk away from the plantation), traumatic memories (if I fail and disappoint I won’t be loved), and painful emotions, a bundle of cognitive processes that we’re not aware of.