What is the process by which men end their lives and development prematurely?
Suicide by female; I would like to introduce this term into the MGTOW lexicon. I define suicide by female a actions on the part of the man for the benefit of women that results in the man experiencing early death and significantly diminished quality of physical and or material well being.
While the content producers within the MGTOW community have addressed the legal and financial risks of associating with women via the marriage contract, the purpose of this post is to focus to your attention on the impact that associating with women has on our health and lives, I will try to achieve this not with appeals to your emotions but through facts, data and logic. This post will form part of a series that looks into the most common types of suicide by female.
The first Suicide by Female is marriage. Women having far more to gain in marriages and are usually keen to enter into them, hence the myriad of shaming terms and man up articles being delivered weekly by the mainstream media. Men on the other hand are much less inclined to get married due to the well known and often devastating financial consequences and loss of access to children in the event of divorce. What I’m keen to explore here is what happens to the blue pill male during marriage. Specifically how does this state sanctioned activity effect his health and wellbeing? For answers one need only look at the data.
The leading cause of death in the United Kingdom among males is Heart Disease, according to the Office of National Statistics, Ischaemic heart disease was the leading cause of death among males in 2012, the latest year for which data is available, that year heart disease accounted for 15.6% of male deaths. This roughly translated into just over 37,000 male deaths within that year. Within the female half of the population, Heart Disease makes up 10.3% of all deaths, this translates to just over 29,000 deaths. This is a difference between the genders of approximately 8,000 lives or 5.3%.
Upon my first look at the data what I found very interesting and significant was the fact that one of the major risk factors for heart disease is OLD AGE, and on average, women live longer than men – 82.6 years compared with 78.7 years respectively in the United Kingdom according to The office of National Statistics. So despite females living longer, men have disproportionately higher rates of heart disease related deaths. Its quite clear that the gaps between the genders would widen further if data on age adjusted deaths by heart disease were available.
Here we might also look into other potential causes of this difference of 5.3% in Heart Disease related deaths, which claimed 8,000 extra male lives in the UK annually vs females. Gender differences in dietary habits have been well researched and certainly do exist, women on average do consumer slightly greater weekly portions of fruits and vegetables, and this is most certainly an area where we as men need to emulate women, this obsession with health and wellbeing, However, thankfully another research team has come up with a more rational answer than ‘women eat better than men’ in reaction to the differences in heart disease related mortality.
According to a study by US researchers, older couples who are in an unhappy marriage have a higher risk of heart disease than those in a happy marriage. The team analysed five years of data from 1,200 married men and women who participated the National Social Life, Health and Aging Project. The participants were aged between 57 and 85-years-old at the beginning of the project. Sociology professors Hui Lui and Linda Waite examined the relationship between marital quality and heart disease and whether any relationship varies depending on age or gender. Lui said negative marital quality, such as husbands and wives being overly critical or demanding, had a bigger effect on heart health than positive marital quality, such as spouses being supportive. “In other words,” the research said, “a bad marriage is more harmful to your heart health than a good marriage is beneficial.”
So the next logical question in this conundrum is what percentage of marriages are unhappy or can be described as bad?
Well, a cross-validated study of 6,267 couples was conducted in the early 90s. Fully 60% of the marriages were classified as either devitalized or conflicted. This study suggests that most married men, live lives of quiet and unrelenting despair. The arguments about money, limited time to spend with friends, isolation from family, having to work long hours to buy the useless items women use to beautify homes, keeping up with the Jones’, things that most men would have little use for when single, these things all collude to create much greater amounts of stress for males. Women certainly will not feel this stress to the same extent that men do, as men are still expected to earn the majority of the money within a marriage, this is described as him being a “provider” or leader.
The second aspect within the marriage component of Suicide by Female is related to the kinds of occupations that men enter into for the purposes of being a provider. I remember that Stardusk has delved into this topic in an excellent video, I have not been able to find this video to cite here, so if anyone does remember the title of this video, please do let me know so I can link to it.
Going over the numbers according to Avoiceformen, men make up nearly 100% 99.999% of combat deaths and casualties (historically), 97%+ since the 1st Gulf War, 94% of industrial deaths and accident. Unfortunately I was unable to find concrete research on the reasons why men are more likely to take do dangerous jobs that can result in death, so here is where I am going to speculate that the economic pressures inherent in marriages and highly inflated female expectations encourage men to do jobs they would otherwise not do.
Another interesting aspect relates to shift work, as an individual who was previously employed as a shift worker I can personally attest to the health destroying realities of this form of employment. An Article by the National Health Service in the UK reports that men were more likely than women to report that they did shift work (33% of men and 22% of women). Thats a full third of men and less than a quarter of women. Shift workers were more likely than non-shift workers to have a limiting longstanding illness; they were also more likely to have more than one longstanding illness. The report went to into the reasons why shift workers present with more illnesses and the article is in the description for those who are keen to delve deeper into the data. What we do know is that shift work triples the rates of prostate cancer in men, increase the rates of Type II diabetes, obesity and substance abuse among employees.
So to me at least the research is pretty clear, the gender differences in life expectancy and quality of life are at least partially and perhaps largely attributable to the choices men make, specifically our reproductive choices or to rephrase this, the extent to which we are driven by our biological need to court and obtain the extended companionship of human females is inversely related to our longevity.
Men do not die earlier because we are defective or do not menstruate as a female colleague once told me, we die earlier due to the phenomenon of suicide by female, at least its first arm which is marriage. Marriage has a direct and negative impact on male health resulting in greater incidence of fatal heart disease, prostate cancer, diabetes and obesity and our likelihood of dying at work.
Now, why do I call this phenomenon, “Suicide by Female”, you know like the Suicide by Cop phenomenon where an individual deliberately behaves in a threatening manner, with the goal being to provoke a lethal response. Because on some level, before men get married, deep down many of us know its a real shitty deal, we see the married men around us and we don’t envy their plight, we recall the friends who got married over the years who can never make time for hobbies and we all know at least previously successful male relatives who are now destitute due to divorces. We deliberately ignore these red flags and engage in a threatening activity, that is marriage, with a subconscious goal of provoking a lethal response to our freedoms, growth and life.
I am also going to speculate that while this Suicide by Female is certainly prominent within marriages, it is also present within partners who cohabit, after all, cohabitation often carries the same expectations to provide for, protect and serve the female, and here again I speculate that the benefits of cohabitation are felt by males AFTER breakup, in that you are less likely to be successfully sued by the female for assets and your future earnings are protected, at least for the time being thats the legal situation we find ourselves in, I’m scripting another post to discuss the changes on the horizon here. Males who find themselves cohabiting will experience the same loss of freedoms, less time for hobbies, leisure, friends and family and increased stress while working to pay for the endless home improvement projects that seem to be the one defining characteristic of the modern western female. So within this banner of Suicide by Female we see that cohabiting fits snugly and finds its self at home with the task of wasting and destroying male contentedness.
So this post is at least a partial response to the ‘just don’t get married’ crowd of the manosphere, entering into a long term relationship can be just as detrimental to ones well being and I would speculate that long term cohabiting males face the same health problems seen in their married counterparts.