In the classic rock anthem, Stairway to Heaven, it states, “Yes there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run, there’s still time to change the road you’re on.” In the case of gender relations, there seems to be but three.
We have feminism, which is the system we live under currently. I think everyone in the manosphere would agree that modern feminism is an abject failure (That means “It sucks big fat donkey balls” to all my southern Indiana readers). As an alternative, we have traditionalism. That means, basically, going back to the way things were. A time where men were men and women stayed in the kitchen and baked cookies. The other alternative is MGTOW.
There is a rift in the men’s movement between those who wish to turn back to a traditional model, and those who wish to pursue the MGTOW path full on. Although either model beats the hell out of 3rd wave feminism, these two paths have stones in them as well.
I will first talk about traditionalism. On the surface, it don’t sound half bad. A man gets to be the king of the house. He comes in from work to a home cooked meal, a clean house, and a woman who can’t leave, no matter how much he drinks and screws around. And if she starts getting mouthy, he can whack her in the head a little. Ah, the good ole’ days!
But the good ole’ days weren’t always good, and tomorrow ain’t as bad as it seems (to quote Billy Joel). Turd Flinging Monkey did a really good video explaining the cycles of patriarchy and matriarchy (feminism/ gynocentrism) throughout society. It all has to do with male scarcity. Traditionally, wars have claimed the lives of many men. In some cases, the entire male population of a particular tribe was completely wiped out. When that happens, you have many women and just a few good men. Since women have always been dependent on men, they must become submissive little kittens in order to curry the favor of a male. Since there are so few men, competition is steep. Only the most beautiful and virtuos women get selected, and males are able to take them for granted and treat them like slaves. Remember Johnny Depp in “The Libertine” shouting “Driiiink!!!” in a coarse, drunken voice? And his wife obediently brings him a drink!
The cycle reverses when the male population catches up to the females. That’s when women become snotty and arrogant, and feminism rears it’s ugly head. Barbarrossa talked about how traditional patriarchy creates a bubble, which leads to the rise of feminism. Eventually, feminism becomes so intolerable that it creates it’s own bubble. And the cycle continues. So what does a poor boy do? If we, as a society, choose a traditionalist model, it will eventually lead us back to where we are now. Also, traditional patriarchy does not really work well without male scarcity. Perhaps that’s where the principle of male disposability kicks in. So here is the million dollar question! How do we create a society where women aren’t viewed and treated as slaves; and males aren’t viewed and treated as disposable utilities.
Karen Straughn, known as Girl Writes What, believes that a traditional patriarchy is the only thing that works because, throughout history, no others system arose. Other MRAs and MGTOWS like Diana Davidson and John the Other believe that traditionalism is a big fat stinking pile of gynocentric crap that only gives the illusion of male superiority. I kind of agree, but what is the alternative?
The only other alternative that I know of is MGTOW. Now, I am going to include several groups in the MGTOW category, though some of these groups don’t like being associated with the other. There is the bachelor; the man who chooses to live alone and maybe dates and has casual relationships. Then you have players and pick-up artists. They are interested in having sex with as many women as they can, but avoid marriage and long term relationships. Last but not least, you have guys that choose not to interact with women at all. MGTOW is a great lifestyle if you do not want children, and you want to maximize your freedom. It also allows a man to allocate all of his resources for his own survival and comfort. As a personal lifestyle choice, it is not a bad way to go. As a worldwide movement though, it causes some problems. For one, how do we re-populate? Sandman has suggested artificial breeding technology. It works, but is that really the kind of society to live in? The men live on one side of town, and the women on the other? Babies are made out of test tubes and artificial wombs? Wouldn’t it be nice if we could go all naturale and find an arrangement that benefits both genders, or is the battle of the sexes doomed to rage on throughout eternity?
The sexual revolution of the ’60’s and ’70’s was all fun and games until children started being born out of wedlock. Sexual liberation; equality; and do your own thing didn’t add up to values that were conducive to family life. Latchkey kids and broken homes started popping up everywhere. It appears that single parents, no matter how hard they try, just don’t cut it. Kids need a mommy and a daddy. It has been said that, in a natural state, men are polygamists and women are serial monogomists. Marriage was originally designed to temper the biological urges of both sexes. A man had to give up his harem and love only one woman. The woman had to promise that she would not run off when the going got tough; or when a better oppurtunity presented itself. Both sexes suffered under this system, but there seemed to be no viable alternative for proper breeding. Everybody just had to bite the bullet.
What if we all just acted according to our nature? Men are natural polygamists. They like variety. It is a good breeding strategy. Women are serial monogamists. They get the best male they can find and breed with only him; that is, until a better man comes along. She then breeds exclusively with him. It is her most effective breeding strategy. What would that model look like? Men would have a harem of women that come and go. When one wife moves on to bigger and better things, another is recruited. Sounds awesome! But who raises the kids? How does this work in the real world? I also suspect that a system like this would not work without male scarcity? So how do men and women effectively procreate without suppressing our biological instincts and “biting the bullet”? I would love to know! If anybody has any thoughts or ideas on the matter, please enlighten me!